From Dark to Light
Healing the Archetypal Masculine and Feminine Templates
Archetypal,
energetic structures and reality paradigms are expanding, lightening,
lifting, and evolving into new forms as we move into the New World.
Perhaps for most of us personally, if not all of us, the hardest and
most stubborn cultural templates to shift, heal, and expand are those
associated with what it means as a human to be a man or a woman.
Now
all of us have both masculine and feminine energies within us, and each
of us has a unique balance between the two. However, those of us who
are male are strongly programmed to act like a man, i.e. to fulfill the
optimal masculine behavior as determined by our culture. And those of
us who are female are likewise programmed to act and be in ways that
females should optimally do in our culture.
We have not given
much thought or consideration about this programming until very
recently in human history. It has been assumed that our programming was
basically instinctual, i.e. how nature made us. Even old religious
texts exhort people to adhere to the program. But humans do not live
according to instinct as animals do, and our traditional
male-dominating patriarchy was an adaptation to survival of the
collective that comes from the Bronze Age. You see, survival required
rules of extreme conformity in the face of danger. Without it, we
would’ve been extremely vulnerable to predators then.
While we
are without the advantages of instinct, we have a powerful advantage in
that we are conscious, self-aware, and have a brain-mind in which we
can choose how to be and what to do. This is our evolutionary gift from
the Divine, and we are in a Free Will reality.
However, the
personal conformity to social norms required by religion and cultural
tradition for social approval (emotional survival and belonging), are
still being promulgated by leaders of societies and religions. They
know that they have adherents and followers willing to support them if
they can control behavior and achieve peace through conformity, while
assuring their followers that they will survive the current “predators.”
But
evolution is happening nevertheless, and at a faster pace than ever
before. This is pushing us to expand our perception of who we are and
what we can do and be. We are stepping up to imagine and dream a new
way, culturally, socially, and personally. This is the time to create
and co-create new and better realities for ourselves and our world. And
this is our Time to activate the gift of our conscious choice!
In
order to do that, we must bust out of the limiting Bronze-age box of
gender and social conformity to radiate our light and be who we came to
be. And many of us chose to be incarnated at this time in order to
bring about the Great Shift, or Consciousness Evolution that enables us
to live a greater life than the mundane, achievement-focused, shallow
one in 3D.
We all have been trained according to our gender in a
traditional-based program, with all its limiting contexts and
descriptions of what a man is supposed to do and what a woman is
supposed to be. I call this education given us by our parents and
culture the “Man Code” and the “Good Girl Training.” These limitations
and ancient guidelines are assumed to be natural and normal, and are
embedded in our Unconscious or Collective Mind. They suggest what
masculine and feminine energies are supposed to be. I call the body of
collective beliefs/attitudes about the masculine and feminine energies,
determining men’s and women’s behaviors The Masculine and The Feminine.
But
this is not nature, it’s training. Unless you are aware of these
limitations, you will follow the patriarchal code of behavior
automatically. As consciousness increases and we evolve more deeply
into the Aquarian Age and into the New World or New Age now, we must
identify these limitations and step away from them. The limited,
twisted, and restrictive Masculine and Feminine I call the Dark
Masculine and Feminine. And the expanded, evolutionary, freeing
Masculine and Feminine I call the Light Masculine and Feminine.
We
must wake up to these programs and see how they operate within our mind
and also in our outer world of work, politics, philosophy, medicine,
and other institutional setups (as institutions require conformity!).
The Man Code puts tremendous pressure on men to achieve, to dominate,
to compete his way up the hierarchy of men to a position of power over
others. While a small percentage of men take naturally to this, the
majority of men do not. It’s time for men to evolve beyond the
limitations of the Man Code training and free themselves into their own
personal Light Masculine.
The Dark Feminine, or the Good Girl
Training is actually a subset of the Dark Masculine. It’s the code
women are taught in order to fit within the parameters of the
patriarchy and the daily Man Code program. It tells women that they are
inferior to men and must defer control to men. They are also taught
that their value comes from the hierarchical level of their man, and
the support they give men and children.
These trainings,
and the established archetypal Masculine and Feminine are Dark,
extremely limiting, and sad, because they demand that we be people that
we are not. Our motivations, desires, and purpose of life have been
coopted by our culture.
Our greatest work in becoming aware of
who we truly are; divine beings having a physical body experience. And
we need to dismantle both the limiting Masculine that I call the Dark
Masculine, and the limiting Feminine that I call the Dark Feminine. By
healing the Dark Sides of the Masculine and Feminine, and deliberately
moving into the Light versions of them that we and the new collective
now forming create, we enter our New Life and the New World, the New
Age, or the Golden Age.
This is the Aquarian Age, a time of
uniqueness within the Oneness, a time of harmony and balance between
both Masculine and Feminine, a time of Unity, and the awareness that we
are all kin, we humans, the plants, animals, and even rocks, wind, -
i.e. Soul Family. And thus it’s a time of people of all
genders/persuasions to allow everyone to be free, valuable, and
included. Together, we will create the New Collective built up from the
Light Masculine and Light Feminine.
I am here to help you
awaken to the limitations posed by the Dark Masculine and Feminine,
heal and release them, by experiencing their resonance – i.e. the body
of vibrations integrated into the archetypal whole. When you can feel
the resonance of them, you can then shift your inner perception of
yourself and change into a more positive and light version of yourself
(i.e. your behavior, beliefs, and intentions).
You can then
integrate this change, as you deliberately and consciously bring the
Light Masculine and Feminine within yourself. When you step into this
enlightened and expanded state, you are in your Greater Self. When you
maintain and expand the resonance and radiance of you, the vibrational
grand frequency of this Greater You will shift the world around you.
You are the remedy for the Change! You came here to do this healing for
yourself and all beings.
The Keywords
To
this end, I give you some keywords for the essential natures/resonances
of both Dark and the corresponding Light sides. I suggest that you
begin by reading each one in turn. If you start with the Dark
Masculine, sense and feel the energies of each word or phrase as you
slowly read them. Let them sink in, feel their impact, and let the
vibrational energy of the Dark Masculine “pile up” in your psyche.
By
the time you are done, you will have a distinct feeling or “energy
read” for the Dark Masculine resonance as a whole, i.e. its essential
energy. Pay attention to this energy. Sense it like a big bubble filled
with this resonance. Connect with the big bubble and note how the
resonance feels in your body. You may feel slightly nauseous, unusually
tight or tense in some part of your body, or a sense of hot or cold or
numbness? Does your breathing change? Do any emotional reactions
surface? Note anything you find. Remember this feeling.
Do the
same for the Light Masculine. Notice how your body feels differently
when you are finished with the Light Masculine. You may feel more
relaxed, freer, or looser in places in your body. Your feelings may be
more peaceful. Note anything you find. Remember this feeling too.
Now
you will have two distinct feelings or sensings, two bubbles or spaces
of resonance that you feel. Go back to the Dark Masculine. Feel the
shift back into the contraction and tightness of the Dark. Now
deliberately shift your attention back to the new sense you have of the
Light Masculine. Feel the freedom and expansion of the Light.
Feel how your body shifts, especially in your breathing, as you move from one to another. And
most importantly, notice how you can shift, by choice, from the Dark to
the Light in your imagination. This is empowering you, preparing you to
choose!
In your daily mundane life, you will come across
the expression of the Dark Masculine in people around you, or showing
up in your thoughts and feelings, beliefs, or perceptions. Whenever you
feel the Dark energy again, pay attention. You are identifying the Dark
Masculine or Feminine. This is a power-filled moment, a chance to break
free! When you feel the Dark Masculine, make the choice to lift to the
Light Masculine.
Do the same with the Dark Feminine too.
Unlike the Dark Masculine, the Dark Feminine and even the Light
Feminine will be less about what other people do and how societal
values are ordered, but more about how you feel inside. Your perception
of yourself is critically important in your Spiritual Path. Many great
teachers have emphasized that YOU are your Path! So your perception of
yourself thus will determine how much of your divine nature you will
claim, how much love, light, and beauty you will claim as normal and
natural for you.
By identifying the Dark Feminine, and the Light
Feminine, you will be able to see where you may be stuck at a limited
inner emotional place and lift yourself out of it. You’ll discover how
much inner emotional freedom, loving and valuing yourself, can lift you
into your Greater Self, your purpose, and your Destiny (should you
accept one). You will be able to free yourself consciously through
choice of which resonance to hold. You’ll free the individual you are
from the collective, the unconsciously accepted cultural programs and
templates. And you are becoming a New Life and New World co-creator
with the Divine and with the others of your Spiritual Wave.
This
technique is amazingly powerful, and you’ll like how it helps you stay
conscious and in your Greater Self. Now here are keywords/phrases.
Dark Masculine keywords and phrases;
Hierarchy,
authoritarian control, dictatorship, fascism, oligarchy (rule of the
very very rich), dominating, bullying, hierarchical, Mafia boss, dogma
from the top down, patriarchy, hypocrisy, religious fundamentalism
(this is the ONLY way to God – all others are evil), the fear of God
(guilt and shame over being and doing), paranoia, enmity vs “others,”
tribalism/genetics; my culture, genes, tribe is better than all the
others, enemies to fight, control of women (their sexuality/fertility),
my way or the highway, survival of the fittest (i.e. relentless
competition to stay alive), duality/zero sum game (right or wrong, good
or evil, win or lose), scarcity, entitlement/privilege (to get away
with anything one does no matter what), extremism of any sort,
absolutism/being always right, war, fighting as a way to solve
conflict, suppression of dissent, exclusivity (the “in” group that
doesn’t let others in), obsession and worship of money/wealth/status,
conformity, obedience, slavery, nobility of the warrior/military,
warrior image, exploitation, ends justify any means (corruption, lying,
cheating, hurting, manipulating to get to a goal), strongman/conqueror,
tough and virile with no weakness such as emotions (which are sissy),
smart-ass (thinking one is clever when acting like an asshole), hiding
the real self behind a strong pretense/ego façade, excessively
self-congratulating and selfish, self-delusional, manipulation through
ridicule/belittling/harassment/exclusion/threat of
anger/attack/rejection/shaming, selfish and self-serving, numb, better
than (personally comparing self to others “below” on the hierarchy or
tearing down someone higher in the hierarchy to below one’s level),
addict, Goal-oriented (the ends justify the means no matter how
horrible),
Saber-rattling, threatening and intimidating others to
get one’s way, competition is everything and with everything, money is
value (a poor man has little value, but is still more valuable than a
woman)
The Light Masculine keywords and phrases;
Egalitarian,
equality amongst all, respecting everyone, listening to everyone,
valuing everyone, acceptance of everyone (every color, gender identity,
financial level and occupation, age, appearance, etc.), win-win
solutions, generous and giving, personal freedom to be oneself,
negotiation, collaboration, individual uniqueness and empowerment
within the group/collective, Oneness of all beings on earth (plants,
animals, people, nature, etc.), all beings are of one family/kin,
respectful and honoring of Mother Earth, inclusive, independent
thinking, diversity, creative thinking, the commons (people living and
working together in shared power), willingness to explore new forms of
organization, motivation is not for money/profit but for
love/creativity/adventure/pursuit of happiness, mutual support between
business and the people, sees reality/Universe as friendly and
supportive, finding common denominators between people, courage to be
real, being real and present, facilitation, humanitarian, human rights
– the right to be safe/free, , being open and aware, connected,
self-esteem, self-confidence, interest and curiosity, humorous
The Dark Feminine keywords and phrases;
Self-hatred,
Self-abandonment, timidity, puts up with anything, takes blame for
everything and everyone’s unhappiness , anguish, tries to “fix” the
self, victim, overly sensitive to negativity/toxins/stress, feeling
unappreciated and also underpaid, giving too much of the self to
depletion, sacrificing the self, manipulating from a position of
weakness, undeserving, worse than others, guilty, shame of being,
feeling flawed, unlovable, self-loathing, suicidal thoughts, carrying
burdens that aren’t yours, disgust over your body shape or looks,
self-pity, frozen (paralyzing) rage, resentment, helplessness,
hopelessness, urge to hurt the self and body, picking at the self,
judging the self, feeling stuck, feeling abandoned, loneliness,
separated from others you wish to belong with, servile/servant/slave to
family, princess ego (feels others should serve you, the sensitive
one), always finding something wrong with everything, hesitant, lost,
sorrow and regret, confused, disoriented, disturbed, disconnected from
life, passive, feels hurt easily, disappointment, powerless,
indecisive, always available to others, insecure, upset, left out
and left behind, resignation, submission/submissive, deferring to
other’s needs automatically before checking on one’s own needs, putting
yourself at the bottom - last on the list, whining and complaining,
being picky-picky, waiting and on hold, addictive, unable to express
anger without being called evil/bad/bitch, self’s value comes from her
man’s achievements, value comes from her childrens’ accomplishments,
allows herself to be interrupted and shut up, worth less and paid less
for the same work as men.
The Light Feminine keywords and phrases;
Supporting,
comforting, joyful service, joy/enjoying, happiness, fulfillment,
valued, loved, harmony, aiding, helping hand, cooperation, assisting,
self-loving, loving life, providing relief, soothing, caring, filled
with beauty, bliss of creativity, connection with the Divine,
intuitional guidance, purity, sensuous, grounded in the love of Mother
Earth, radiating love, compassion, balance, Music of the Spheres, the
dance of life (the movement of light energy), all beings are family
(your siblings in harmony and love), kindness, gentleness, flowing,
high self-worth, self-respect, self-esteem, self-love, trusting the
Divine Plan and the Universe’s support, enthusiastic, joyously
passionate, serenity, awe, pleasant, cheerful, exalted emotions,
gratitude, affection, personal warmth, appreciation, considerate,
generous, euphoria, satisfaction, lifted, pleasure, funny, laughter,
easy, fun, delightful, empowered to make good choices for the self,
safety, shelter,
More to Experience; Going Deeper
To
make the feelings more obvious, you can flesh out the keywords. Here is
some examples of the Dark and Light Masculine. Since the Dark Masculine
is considered the norm of the land, I have put more attention into
describing it so that you can feel how it is not natural and how dark
it is.
The Dark Masculine
is a hierarchy, ruling and determining things from the top down, and
having defined rules of behavior. Dominating, controlling from a
position of patriarchal authority (also known as male chauvinism). This
is shown easily in a fundamentalist religion, which is patriarchal and
insists that one way is the only way. The Dark Masculine
insists that everyone believe in the survival of the fittest and
promotes this dogma relentlessly. While this is actually, from a
metaphysical standpoint, utter nonsense, everyone is thus forced to
endlessly compete with others for what are perceived as scarce things
available only at the top of the hierarchy; money, love, power,
authority, success, security. This system engenders a lot of jealousy
and envy and rage at those more competent and ruthless in competing and
fighting.
Further, any dogma that promotes the ascension of
the very rich is considered the law of the land. Everyone must believe
the dogma, and ignore the truth, facts, and any witnesses who do not
belong to the in group. Witness this in medical science, where
experiment data for a new pharmaceutical is fudged routinely but the
pharmaceutical that is now approved by the government (who essentially
works for the industry and not for the people) is forced on everyone as
the cure or the great hope. Healthy, natural alternatives are
disallowed and are made illegal. And no one can call the industry on
the harm it does to millions of people!
Politically, this is a
dictatorship or an oligarchic rule. It encourages conformity and
obedience, and conflicts within the system are eliminated by attack,
suppression, and punishment. This is what the Dark Masculine calls
peace. Peoples’ choices are dishonored, their lives controlled, and
they can’t make a peep about it.
The Dark Masculine
is fascinated with war and the military and supports an elite group at
the expense of everyone else. This is the only real conspiracy going
on. The Dark Masculine
tends to create structures that are centralized so that a few can
control the many. It creates an exclusive or “in” group with power and
excludes “others” (example; immigrants, LBGTQ’s, darker skinned people,
uppity women) who don’t fit in the in group due to race, gender, age,
financial level, philosophy, etc. The more a group is “othered,” the
more easily the in group will commit violence and hurt upon them.
The
most important thing is to make profit, i.e. “the ends justify the
means,” and the Dark Masculine doesn’t care if others suffer in the
process of making said profit. This creates slavery to money. And, if
profit can be made by mining and fracking, and poisoning an ecosystem,
the earth will be despoiled. There is no honoring the feminine, the
Mother Earth.
The Dark Masculine
employs linear logic and eschews emotion, although it can foster
tremendous negative emotions such as anger, rage, fear, and righteous
judgment. All emotions are justified by the ego position of superiority
held by the topdogs of the hierarchy. The well-developed ego façade of
a man of the Dark Masculine is that of a strongman, a conqueror. No one
ever sees any weaknesses or vulnerability on his part. He hides any
insecurities or shame, but lives in fear of ridicule, judgments from
others, embarrassments, public humiliation, and rejection. He will tend
to be narcissistic, self-serving, dominating, and his way is the only
way.
Compare that with the Light Masculine,
where there is little hierarchy and everyone is listened to and
considered valuable, regardless of their financial net worth. The
people come together and find win-win solutions for themselves. This is
like a democracy where votes count and people collaborate to reach
common ideals such as freedom, personal empowerment, etc.
Non-partisanship, using negotiation and collaboration is the norm. It’s
about equality, and allows for independent thinking.
The Light Masculine
is inclusive. Everyone belongs by virtue of being a human being. The
whole brings in more diverse and creative viewpoints and honors them
all (provided they are not manipulative, dominating, or threatening,
which is the Dark Masculine showing up). This system is decentralized,
and as I said before, the people collaborate to create small foci and
groups that are free to explore new forms of organization.
Instead of the profit motive, the Light Masculine
offers the motivation of love, creativity, adventure and people
pursuing what makes them happy, not the slavery to money. Profit is
good as long as innocents don’t suffer. Businesses give back to the
community and the community supports the businesses.
The Light Masculine
lives in a loving and supportive reality. People fortunate to be here
feel safe, loved, free, and empowered. They give themselves permission
to be real, present, and express their true natures of goodness, worth,
and beauty. They remain open and aware, honoring Mother Earth, and
seeing all creatures as brothers and sisters in the Divine. They can be
part of a group or a nation and still be free individuals. No rebellion
is necessary as they live comfortably in their own authority and
knowing. All people are accepted, regardless of color, gender/sexual
identity, age, and wealth level. After all, everyone is family.
The Dark Feminine
I
recommend that you can do this same fleshing out work with the Dark
Feminine and Light Feminine as well. I did not flesh out the Dark
Feminine to the same extent, but here’s a bit more on the Dark Feminine.
Meanwhile,
for those living under the thumb of social protocol, oligarchic
societies, and Patriarchal cultures, the Dark Feminine can dominate. Of
course, while the Dark Masculine is more attractive to men, the Dark
Feminine is considered the norm for women.
The Dark Feminine
shows up mainly in the inner world of a person, and consists of
carrying burdens of suffering, endless work/duties done in the service
of others, self-devaluing and self-loathing, illnesses that seem to
have no cure, self-destructive behaviors, petty and dramatic
relationships, and loss of the power of choice.
Life is a
small box, self-images are tiny, and there is no hope. Self-hatred and
extreme victimhood, at the mercy of everything in the environment, lead
to tremendous illness and death. Breast cancer is the concentration of
the Dark Feminine in the body. Disease holds the Dark Feminine in the
body to contain it, to hide it, and perhaps somewhere to process it.
Taking responsibility for the Dark Feminine may bring a sense of blame
and shame for even feeling this empathy with all the suffering in the
world.
Here are some key actions and acknowledgments required of the Dark Feminine.
- Being Submissive
- Being Servile, a willing slave to family
- Not allowed to show anger without punishment (rejection or attack)
- Value comes from her man, the better the man, the more value she has
- Value
also comes from her children performing well, it’s extremely important
to be seen as a Good Mother, regardless of whether one is or isn’t
- Encouraged to give, give, give, never earning enough value to receive
- Believing
in a low valued self; i.e. having low self-awareness, low self-worth,
low self-esteem, low self-love, low self-confidence, low self-respect
- Her
ideas are not important, only a man’s is, so she has to get the man to
promote her ideas (and then he claims them as his own)
- She must defer to others’ needs automatically before checking on one’s own needs
Now it’s Up to You in Your Free Will
As
you can see, this is a huge undertaking, since the Dark Masculine and
Dark Feminine have colored our lives with pain and disappointment. But
take heart! Anything you do here, by identifying the resonances and
components of the Dark Masculine and Feminine will help free you
forever. And what you can imbibe within yourself of the Light Masculine
and Light Feminine will serve as your foundation of your New Life and
your New World!
I hope you have found this useful. Please give
me feedback on this is you have more keywords to offer, or suggestions
to make, at ginger@giniel.com.
Blessings,
Ginger
This article written by
Ginger Metraux, Ph.D.
"The Mystic Professor"
(c) 2017-2018, Ginger Metraux and Giniel, Inc., Encino, CA, USA |